I Cannot Believe What I Just Heard
04.29.2009 - tom
I have to confess. I’ve known for quite some time that the world we live in is getting worse and worse. That Morals are more and more becoming a thing of the past. I felt as though I had gotten to the point where nothing anymore could even shock or surprise me, but boy was I sadly mistaken.
As I was listening to the radio the other morning, trying to catch up on the score to the Rays game I heard one of the saddest advertisements I’ve ever heard. Here was the opening line…“Life is short, have an affair.” (Yep, that’s right, that’s what they said.) I just about spit the orange juice I was drinking all over the front window of my car. The commercial then began to encourage everyone listening to “join the other like minded individuals who realize that you can’t always get fulfillment from your spouse and that it is okay to cheat.”
I absolutely COULD NOT believe what I was hearing. As I listened to this ad I asked myself a couple of questions. Why would someone intentionally try to destroy marriages? Why do people glorify something (adultery) that is so clearly offensive to God?
Unfortunately, adultery is nothing new. It might be more talked about and out in the open in today’s society, but adultery has existed for thousands of years. Abraham betrayed his marriage vows with Sarah by sleeping with Hagar. David had an affair with Bathsheba. Adultery is not a new sin. The betrayal still exists, and so do the ramifications.
Exodus 20:14 is clear: “You shall not commit adultery.” This was not a suggestion that was made to us but rather a commandment straight from the mouth of God.
You see, the truth is that adultery doesn’t solve the problem of unhappiness in your marriage. Adultery doesn’t help you fall back in love with your spouse. No; what adultery does is destroy marriages, families, hope, love, and trust. But most of all, it destroys a covenant made between man and God. Proverbs 6:32 says, “But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself.”
Let me share with you a little bit of reality…HAVING AN AFFAIR IS WRONG, it is a sin and if you are currently caught up in this sin you better wise up now and stop, repent, seek forgiveness from God and go to your spouse honestly and openly as well. If you’re unhappy at the moment in your marriage and have begun to think about having an affair let me encourage you to think again. Don’t make the choice to knowingly commit a sin that God has commanded us not too. Don’t put your entire family at risk simply because you feel unhappy or like the love is gone.
God wants to help you. God can and He will restore your marriage if you will give Him the chance. You don’t have to live in an unfulfilling relationship, that choice is yours. If your marriage isn’t where it needs to be, then it means that there is a disconnect somewhere between your marriage and God. Start there, not with the affair. Go to Christian marriage counseling. Come sit down with Pastor Darin or myself. Learn the art of conflict resolution and how to compromise in marriage. Learn how to become unselfish in your marriage.
Let me encourage you to never take advice from worldly people. Worldly people are not interested in pleasing God, they are not interested in following God’s will, they are only interested in making themselves happy. I guess that is one thing that saddens me so much about it. They would find that happiness if they would just look in the right place.
Bottom Line…
An affair is NOT the answer. GOD is.
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Thanks for taking the time to write this, I know God will bless it and he will make that devine appointment for specific people to read it!
Thanks for being a blessing!
Be Blessed
Jack
What a great message. I wish more people saw it this way.
I also am shocked! Wow… I am glad you wrote about this. I wish I could say this is not the American way but all I can say is it is not God’s Way.
Wow, that’s horrible. Unfortunately it goes right along with everything the media portrays as okay. I actually remember hearing/seeing an article/book that said that having an affair could STRENGTHEN your marriage in the long run. Really? I’d like to see the study on that one. Makes me sick to think. Thanks for the soap box!
Amen, Tom! I, too, would like to say that such a commercial is unbelievable, but truthfully, it isn’t advertising anything that isn’t consistantly advertised through secular movies, tv shows, and music. You are right, however, that God wants to restore marriages and He is capable of fixing what is broken when we let Him. Thanks for your blog.
–A
Preach it! Sadly enough, there is also a TV commercial promoting the same thing. I was just as taken back as you, when I saw it. It is sad to see the slippery slope we are sliding down. Good news is the field is ripe for showing people that only THROUGH CHRIST, can their marriages be “fulfilled” !
Thanks for all you do.
Tommy,
I recently watched a wonderful movie called “Not Easily Broken”. It dealt with a marriage in crisis. When a man and his wife married, the minister told them to be mindful that life would try to beat them down. But… their marriage was a three chorded strand. If they kept their strands round their necks, their marriage would be strong enough to weather anything because God never takes his off. When the marriage suffered years later, that same minister asked,” Are you still wearing your strand?” They weren’t.
Lots of us have been there. When we take off our strands, we adorn ourselves with something else that will only lead to disappointment, sorrow, and regret. But God is so good! When we put our strands back on, he’ll heal us and make our hearts, our marriages and our lives so full of joy…so much more than we could ever have imagined! He truly is soooooo good!
WOW!!! You are so right. Having experienced divorce due to adultery and alcoholism, people do not need to get caught up in adultery. GOD is saddened every time that people decide to commit adultery. I wish people would go into marriage with the thoughts that nothing is ever going to destroy their marriage…only death can separate them. Thanks for the blog…keep up the blogging…mm
Tom, you are right soon the word will not even in the dictionary. I find it sad when people choose to take this direction.
Tommy,
I couldn’t agree with you more!!! This world is falling apart and the me, me, me society is not just destorying themselves but also their families and friends. My first husband cheated and it totally destroyed our marriage and adversly affected our children. There was never any trust again.
The Lord truly blessed me by reintroducing Charlie into my life. He is faithful to God and to me.
Thank you so much for bringing this every spreading problem to light and directing people to seek out God instead of others for selfish pleasure. We are never alone or abandonded. Our Lord Jesus Christ is with us and will see us thru the hard times as long as we trust in Him.